This presentation was created from the powerful words of women who I feel are speaking to our black girls today. Listen to the words and take them to heart. This is your life and your story can and should be the beautiful tale of your determination, strength, and commitment to what you believe in!

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“Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do.” Steve Jobs, Co-Founder, Chairman and CEO, Apple

How to Cure Your Nervousness With These 8 Steps

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Your palms are sweating. Your armpits feel like a faucet and you’re trying to remember if you brushed your teeth. You’re in a room full of new people and it feels like everyone in there knows each other. You’re wondering if people care that you’re there and you don’t know what you’re going to say should one of them walk up and actually talk to you! If only you could just calm your nerves, maybe…just maybe, you could let the real you shine through.

I know that feeling. I used to feel that way often attending networking events, going to college parties or even walking into the cafeteria on campus. I wasn’t really shy but large crowds just made me nervous and my body language, facial expressions, everything sure reflected it! I would literally stand to myself and wait for other people to come up and approach me and if they didn’t I would just leave thinking that the event was a flop when in fact it was me just having a hard time juggling my emotions.

talkingHowever in all my time standing alone I noticed that the most popular people are those that have lively personalities and pleasant faces and body language. They look approachable and kind. Trust me, inside you may feel like you’re playing it cool but your face is doing something totally different and it’s making people walk far away from you!

If you’re attending any type of function and you’re very nervous or just need help relaxing in a new environment, try these simple tips!

1. Know what you’re there for. If it’s a networking event are you there to meet new people, pass out business cards, make business connections or connections for a future job opportunity? If it’s a party are you looking for friends, someone to date, meet new DJs? If it’s an educational event on your campus is it for class, personal interest, a college aspiration? If you can get very clear on your main reason for being there you’ll make sure that that purpose happens before you leave.

2. Smile. Everyone looks friendly when they smile and you look more approachable. If you want to continue with the deer in headlights looks expect to stand by yourself the entire time. If not, smile!

3. Laugh. Smiling and laughing go hand in hand. It brightens your face and look.  (Don’t just stand there laughing by yourself though, that will make you look like you need to be in psych ward)

4. Walk up to another person who appears to be standing alone and introduce yourself. I know this is a major step for someone who is shy but it’s a proactive step towards meeting new people and it makes you look very confident.

5. Use these five questions to strike up a conversation. What’s your name? What do you do for a living (or what grade are you in)? What brought you here today? Big plans this weekend? Wow, the (something that happened earlier that day) was interesting, what’d you think? People love to talk about themselves and these questions are a good segway into a basic conversation. If the person seems to not want to be bothered just grab your phone and say “Ooh gotta take this call. Nice meeting you!”, step away and find another person in the room and try again.

6. Have an amazing story to tell. The most interesting people I’ve found are the ones who have great stories to tell. There is something so engaging as you stand in anticipation to hear the entire story. If you do choose this route make sure it’s not some crazy story about someone who just died or a story that’s extremely long. Go for the wow factor!

7. Wear comfortable shoes. There is nothing worse than having to stand in an outfit or shoes that you feel uncomfortable in. Dress in breathable clothing (that means not skin tight and a loose fabric like cotton). That way your body language also reflects your comfort level.

8. Have some water. Think of your water cleansing out the butterflies in your stomach. Just take a sip and take a deep breath and repeat.

Question: What techniques have you tried to cure your nervousness?

 

The Keke Palmer School of Leadership

Not only is KeKe an amazing singer, actress, and now talk show host, she is also a perfect example of what a true leader exemplifies. She understands and leverages her leadership skills to becoming the successful young lady she is today. KeKe was quoted for saying ” I always try to set a positive example for my generation and promote confidence.” That’s right, the essence of leadership! So grab a seat, a cup of coffee and let me introduce you to The KeKe Palmer School of Leadership!

 

Photo Credit: Uptown Magazine

Photo Credit: Uptown Magazine

1. KeKe is relatable, and every leader needs to relate to her audience. KeKe is the kind of girl you want to have as a friend and one you’d be willing to take sound advice from. The amazing thing about her is that she interacts with her fans. They have questions and problems and she gets right into the conversation with them and answers them! That’s what a leader does.

Leadership Lesson Takeaway: Look for ways that you can solve small problems around you and find ways to add value to your peers, soon they’ll begin to realize that your are a valuable resourceful leader.

What Zendaya Can Teach Us About Haters

So as most of you already know Zendaya was set to play Aaliyah in the upcoming Lifetime biopic movie: Aaliyah: One In A Million. However a few haters took to Twitter to rant about how the singer should not play Aaliyah because she looks Latina and Aaliyah was clearly African American. Zendaya who has an African American father and Caucasian mother is clearly not Latina. Now after backlash she is no longer affiliated with the project and for that I’m upset.

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Zendaya posted on her Twitter account: “She’s (Aaliyah) has been an inspiration and influence in my whole career, her talent shines brighter than ever, all I wanna do is honor her…there will never be another Aaliyah, I just hope to share her beautiful story, and make her proud up in heaven.”

Now, someone who shares sentiments like that is a clear fan of Aaliyah and is looking to expand beyond her Disney repertoire and gain experience acting in various types of roles. She has ambitions of not just being another “kid” star but maturing into new more challenging roles. Her story taught me a lot about how to handle haters.

I’m upset because I feel like Zedaya allowed her haters to get the best of her (a no no in my book). She took to the BET Awards red carpet and said that she is no longer apart of the project because she felt like they were rushing the project and she wanted to do it right and not rush for someone she honors so much.

It could be that the family had some back lash about the project and for the Director and Producer did not consult them and maybe she didn’t want to be in the midst of that drama. But I’m willing to bet that it had something to do with the backlash from her haters (cough, cough) I mean “fans”.

When you have a dream and it’s something you feel passionately about don’t let NOBODY…excuse me….ANYBODY tear you away from it. When you know WHO you are, WHAT you’re doing it for, and WHY it’s important to you and your life, everything else can take a backseat. (Especially a hater!)

I think it’s borderline bullying when people feel “If enough of us gang up on her then we can change her mind”. How about you band together and use your words for good or to create positive change?

Haters will always have something to say, and 9 times out of 10 it’s incorrect. Zendaya is mixed but in an ignorant person’s eyes and mind she gets labeled “Latina”.  (First of all learn your cultures…)

Haters aren’t pursuing their own dreams so they’d rather spend all their time tearing you away from yours. Get a hobby, connect with a higher power and find your purpose in life…as a matter of fact, sign up for my mentoring program and I’ll work with you ;-). I will always remind you that there is power in your tongue! Use your words to uplift and encourage others.

Haters won’t say half of what they want to say to you in person, so they’re just computer thuggin’. You heard me right! Just typing their little pointless lives away behind a screen because they are insecure with who they are and unsure what they have to offer the world. And this poor child is out here trying to be an example and positive role model…..

All in all I said all this to say:

Let your haters make you greater.

When you hear what haters say, laugh because you will prevail and stand proud, and all they can do is stand and look silly when you’ve accomplished what you set out to do.

Don’t change who you are because of what someone has to say about you. For every one person who hates you there’s a million more who will love you, and that’s the God honest truth!

Keep on pushing because your perseverance will cause you to be prosperous! 

Everybody who is somebody had a “somebody” who was’t for them. Stand firm in YOU because at the end of the day, YOU are responsible for your own happiness.

Put this post on Replay..(A little Zendaya humor)

Question: How do you handle haters?

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7 Things Successful Youth Do on Sunday Nights

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Monday morning are critical to a successful week. Planning the night before can assist you in having a GREAT week! How prepared you feel can influence your mind in a positive or negative way. Planning and managing your time is the extra step you need to ensure the week runs as smoothly as possible.
Here are 7 thing successful people do on Sunday Nights:
1. Update their to do lists. Each week has it’s own set of tasks. Update your to do list to finish last weeks goals or begin on this weeks goals.
2. Get their clothing out for the week. At least lay out your clothing for the next day. There is nothing worse than thinking your favorite green shirt is clean and folded in your drawer than to wake up and see it in the laundry instead. Prep everything from your bag, to your socks and shoes so all you have to do is hop into your clothes! If you really want to challenge yourself, lay out 5 outfits for the week.