[Youth] How to Make Decisions

Have you ever noticed that it is really hard to make a decision sometimes? There might be two really good choices to chose from and you just have no idea what to do? You call a friend and ask for their opinion and then you still try to decide what’s going to be best for you.


Check out these steps to the decison making process to learn how you make decisions:

1. Define the problem. You typically need to make a decision because you have a problem to solve.

What is the goal you hope to acheive when you reach a solution? Example: Problem: I really need an outfit for this graudation party. Solution: I will find something that looks good on me and is appropriate for the occasion.

2. Think about your other possibilities. You are stuck making a decision because you have multiple choices. Think about all the alternatives to the problem.

3. Evaluate your choices. Ask yourself is this choice in line with what I’m trying to accomplish with my life? If your answer is no, don’t do it. If your answer is yes, write it down until you’ve been able to narrow down your top choices.

4. Choose. Choose the best option that is in line with the problem. Make sure your choice makes you feel comfortable and makes sense after you’ve evaluated all of your choices.

5. Do it. Whatever your choice is, act on it!

There is nothing wrong with taking your time in making decisions. We are a result of the decisions we make so decision making is a huge part of who we are. It’s nothing to take lightly but it is something to take seriously, master, and utilize everyday. 

Question: What is a big decision you had to make today? 

Quit Playing and Get It Done

How many excuses can you come up with before you actually get work done? Excuses help pacify the fact that you aren’t producing. It’s time to stop making excuses for yourself and get the work done.

Just think of every excuse you make for yourself as a step further down the ladder of success. Who intentionally wants to take steps in the wrong direction? I know you don’t!

As a woman you have to accept responsibility and provide accountability for the things you do and don’t accomplish. Your main purpose as woman is to reproduce! That doesn’t change when it comes to the work world either. This is your time to reproduce, that is multiply. By multiplying you can increase in all areas of your life.

You bring things into existence with your creative abilities. That means you supply your life with the things you desire by making it happen. Why deny yourself that? I challenge you to declare right now that you shall not be denied because of laziness. Declare that you will stop playing and get what needs to get done, done!

Remember F.O.C.U.S.!! Follow one course until successful.

Three Ways to Achieve Success IMMEDIATELY

1. Define your own success.
When it comes to success I find it interesting that people are always Googling how to make it big or how to makes loads of money. The only way to be successful under your own terms is to define success for yourself. What does it means to be successful? Does it mean a new position? A new salary? A nice car or a house is a fancy neighborhood? You cannot allow others to define success for you.

Leadership Tips from Michelle Obama

I miss Michelle Obama. Every time she spoke she dropped knowledge to help us reflect our own way of thinking and actions! Here’s a look back to a few great tips from Michelle Obama.


“He believes when you work hard and you cross the door of opportunity, don’t slam it! Don’t close the door behind you! You REACH BACK and bring others up! @MichelleObama

1. Leadership is 100% about creating new leaders. If you are at the top and love the feeling of being above your subordinates then your motives for leadership are off. Effective leaders lead because they want to create change, influence others to take action, and work their way to a position to challenge the same in others. 

‎”Being President doesn’t change who you are, it reveals who you are.” @MichelleObama

2. Leadership is an internal expression of an inward ability. Leaders shouldn’t become someone “new” once they get into their position because leadership is not about position. Leadership is about the ability to influence change on any level. It reveals who you are because it should be who you are. 

Advice to New Educators

I can still remember back to my first year walking into my classroom. There was the sheer excitement of walking into this blank canvas and knowing that it was my responsibility to fill it with resources, materials, and make it a condusive and cozy learning environment.
Advice to New Educators
But one thing was for sure, looking back on it all, educating was so much more than a Pinterest ready classroom. If there is anything I can share with new Educators here are those truths:
  1. You only have a year. And it’s really not even that, you have about 9-10 months to impart knowledge between breaks, inclement weather days, and other school holidays. It’s really going to go by quickly. Make sure you capture moments via photos and videos and focus on the little things because as the saying goes, you’ll realize that they were the big things.
  2. You’re imprinting in a life for all their life. The way you greet the children in the mornings and send them on their way in the evening to the way you present yourself in speech and style will all imprint on their hearts and minds forever. Whatever grade you teach when these kids are adults and they speak about that grade level, your name is going to come up as having been responsible for them. Think now on what you want them to say and remember because they will.
  3. You’re stronger than you think. I remember days I just wanted to run in the bathroom and cry and there were for sure moments when I did. This work is tough, kids will disappoint you, admin will tell you to figure it out and you’ll feel like you don’t have adequate support. Kids will get into fights, you won’t have time to finish your lunch,  a parent will fuss at you for no reason, and then you’ll look at your paycheck and say “THIS is all I took home this pay period?! I QUIT” but you won’t because you love what you do. You are stronger than you think and braver than you know. Some aspects of Education can’t be explained but only experienced. Trust that you have the courage to see it through.
  4. You are not your title. Yes your badge may say teacher but you are nurse, counselor, school mama, psychologist, referee, chef, party planner, event manager, and webmaster if you keep a teaching blog. Your job extends far past a title.
  5. Your position is a privilege. You spend more time with these children than their parents. You should not take that for granted. You have so much opportunity for influence and impact, lead well.

    The last piece of advice is : You have a life outside of work, don’t live at your school. Dedication is a beautiful quality to have but there is such a thing as living at school. I’ve seen teachers who come to work at 6:00 am leave the building daily at 8:00 or 9:00 pm. I know Pinterest can suck you into all it’s cute little activities/centers/projects and décor and you’ll want to stay and hash it out, but go home! Don’t come back on Saturday or Sunday, enjoy your spouse or family if you have them. Precious time cannot be given back. Work is a reward but living is where your true riches are.

Question: What advice would you give to new Educators?

The Grammys, Mistakes, and Being Unashamed

The Grammy's, Mistakes, and Being Unashamed

Tonight the Grammy’s was everything I LOVE. Music, dancing, laughter, makeup, and fashion. But as I was watching I felt this year was different. The tone was different. SO MANY MISTAKES WERE MADE. SO MANY FEELS. So many lessons in the little moments. Here are a few, maybe you caught them too.

I missed the beginning of the awards show but when I turned on my TV I see two guys start to unzip their pants and take them off! (Thanks while I’m sitting there with my kids…) As I was trying to figure out what was going on Twenty One Pilots begins to describe that years ago when they were watching the Grammy’s with their friends they realized they were sitting there in their underwear. They said to themselves that if they ever won a Grammy they would accept it in their underwear. Lesson: Anyone from anywhere can do anything. We are all becoming.  Don’t forget all that you’ve gone through to get to your next level.  

Seek: Directions In Your Quest to Achieve More

An Online Course

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If you are anything like me, you are a seeker. A seeker is a person who is searching for something or tries to find or obtain something. I believe that “seeking” is at the core of every person but what separates those who are more successful is their ability to understand fully what they’re trying to obtain and creating a plan for getting there.

This course was created because I was seeking freedom in all areas of life. I wanted freedom in my work life, moments of freedom at home, I desired to feel liberated and I knew that freedom was it.

This course is a reflection of the eight steps I felt I’ve transitioned through and they are ones that you’ll experience in your life as well as you begin to seek greater experiences.

This online course is one that will allow you reflect on yourself, the path you’re on and the one you desire to enter into. This course will activate your faith and your help diminish your fears about your present and future.

So today I invite you to invest in this personal course and add it to your collection of development tools. Don’t forget to get social with me and share your feedback.

Here’s to your growth, transition, and recommitment to incredible you!