Your palms are sweating. Your armpits feel like a faucet and you’re trying to remember if you brushed your teeth. You’re in a room full of new people and it feels like everyone in there knows each other. You’re wondering if people care that you’re there and you don’t know what you’re going to say should one of them walk up and actually talk to you! If only you could just calm your nerves, maybe…just maybe, you could let the real you shine through.
So as most of you already know Zendaya was set to play Aaliyah in the upcoming Lifetime biopic movie: Aaliyah: One In A Million. However a few haters took to Twitter to rant about how the singer should not play Aaliyah because she looks Latina and Aaliyah was clearly African American. Zendaya who has an African American father and Caucasian mother is clearly not Latina. Now after backlash she is no longer affiliated with the project and for that I’m upset.
Zendaya posted on her Twitter account: “She’s (Aaliyah) has been an inspiration and influence in my whole career, her talent shines brighter than ever, all I wanna do is honor her…there will never be another Aaliyah, I just hope to share her beautiful story, and make her proud up in heaven.”
Now, someone who shares sentiments like that is a clear fan of Aaliyah and is looking to expand beyond her Disney repertoire and gain experience acting in various types of roles. She has ambitions of not just being another “kid” star but maturing into new more challenging roles. Her story taught me a lot about how to handle haters.
I’m upset because I feel like Zedaya allowed her haters to get the best of her (a no no in my book). She took to the BET Awards red carpet and said that she is no longer apart of the project because she felt like they were rushing the project and she wanted to do it right and not rush for someone she honors so much.
It could be that the family had some back lash about the project and for the Director and Producer did not consult them and maybe she didn’t want to be in the midst of that drama. But I’m willing to bet that it had something to do with the backlash from her haters (cough, cough) I mean “fans”.
When you have a dream and it’s something you feel passionately about don’t let NOBODY…excuse me….ANYBODY tear you away from it. When you know WHO you are, WHAT you’re doing it for, and WHY it’s important to you and your life, everything else can take a backseat. (Especially a hater!)
I think it’s borderline bullying when people feel “If enough of us gang up on her then we can change her mind”. How about you band together and use your words for good or to create positive change?
Haters will always have something to say, and 9 times out of 10 it’s incorrect. Zendaya is mixed but in an ignorant person’s eyes and mind she gets labeled “Latina”. (First of all learn your cultures…)
Haters aren’t pursuing their own dreams so they’d rather spend all their time tearing you away from yours. Get a hobby, connect with a higher power and find your purpose in life…as a matter of fact, sign up for my mentoring program and I’ll work with you ;-). I will always remind you that there is power in your tongue! Use your words to uplift and encourage others.
Haters won’t say half of what they want to say to you in person, so they’re just computer thuggin’. You heard me right! Just typing their little pointless lives away behind a screen because they are insecure with who they are and unsure what they have to offer the world. And this poor child is out here trying to be an example and positive role model…..
All in all I said all this to say:
Let your haters make you greater.
When you hear what haters say, laugh because you will prevail and stand proud, and all they can do is stand and look silly when you’ve accomplished what you set out to do.
Don’t change who you are because of what someone has to say about you. For every one person who hates you there’s a million more who will love you, and that’s the God honest truth!
Keep on pushing because your perseverance will cause you to be prosperous!
Everybody who is somebody had a “somebody” who was’t for them. Stand firm in YOU because at the end of the day, YOU are responsible for your own happiness.
Put this post on Replay..(A little Zendaya humor)
Question: How do you handle haters?
1. You have to go seek opportunities, they won’t come for you. College is the land of opportunity if you look at it that way. Never again will you have access to so many individuals from all over the world and with so many different backgrounds all living and gathering in the same place. College is intended to not only gain an education but to gain wisdom. This is why it’s important to go to college with a set of goals, things you want to accomplish in your life over the next 5 years. Once you have that in mind you can look at your experiences with opportunistic eyes. Are you looking to start a business? Where are your clients? In a certain department? In a certain dorm? Are you looking for a mentor? Whose on your campus that’s doing what you plan to do in the upcoming years? You have to reach out and get what you want and deserve for your life. Nobody is going to be knocking on your dorm door offering everything to you because you’re cute or smart. It’s the same later on in life, so get used to it!
) and keep it near your desk area. Do the same with papers from work. Keep meticulous records, even of your bills. Having these systems in place now will save you plenty headaches later on in life.
Question: What life lesson has college taught you?
The Wonderfully Made Girls Summit is an annual fall event whose purpose is to remind girls that they are all created unique and with a specific mission to carry out in their lifetime.
Double Vals: The Keys To Success In College And Life Beyond (Austell: Carnegie Books, 2014)
I recently purchased this book from two phenomenal young ladies who attend my church Word of Faith in Austell, GA. These two beautiful ladies graduated as co-valeditorians of Spelman College with perfect 4.0s. Hearing their story and knowing how dedicated they are to ministry I felt like there was no excuse to why I couldn’t push myself to do the same. I am proud to say I currently hold a perfect 4.0 in my doctoral program at Clark Atlanta University where I’m studying Educational Leadership and Administration.
As I’m reading this book I’ve learned how they did it. There story is amazing and inspirational and every young person looking to excel in college and life should pick up a copy!
About The Book
WITH STRATEGY, THE SOURCE, AND SWEAT, GENIUS ISN’T NECESSARY FOR SUCCESS!
Discover the practical yet powerful keys that will guide you to exceptional grades, exemplary balance, and extraordinary life-fulfillment.
Entering Spelman College as nervous, doubtful freshmen, Kirstie and Kristie Bronner never imagined what would become of their journey-that they would make history as the first twins to graduate as double valedictorians, with perfect 4.0 GPA’s and appearing in media headlines!
Like many college students, they experienced stress, discouragement, and overwhelming longing to fast-forward to the moment they would dance across the platform with their diplomas in-hand! They were not in love with school, neither were they Einsteins.
Their secret was not found in genius, but in exceptional habits and hard work! This means that their story of academic preeminence and life success can become yours!
You’ll gain the keys to:
• Study tips that work miracles
• Time management that makes you a master of minutes
• Scheduling that conquers busyness
• Relationships that boost your GPA
• Perspective that redirects your focus
• Excellence that causes you to stand out
• Risks that you should take
• Balanced living that yields holistic health
• Classroom miracles that drop your jaw
• School lessons that transfer to life lessons
GET READY TO ABANDON MEDIOCRITY AND BE EMPOWERED FOR ACADEMIC SUPERIORITY AND LIFE EXCELLENCE!
Congratulations! You made it into your top college and you are now among some of the countries higher level thinkers who are pursuing their education and earning degrees. You may think there’s time to rest over the summer months but there is still so much to plan for before stepping foot on your campus.
1. Get a copy of your birth certificate and social security card. You will need a copies of this for forms during college, applying for a job, and more. Memorize your social security number so you
2. Purchase items for your dorm. This is the most exciting part of college preparation (for me it was anyways!). Your dorm is your little place of independence and home over the next few months and you want it to feel cozy and reflect you.