What Can We Do To Encourage Our Children’s Business Mindset?

While it’s difficult enough as an adult to run a successful business, if we are doing our best to prepare our children for the business world, it’s important that we help to develop their entrepreneurial mindset. In many ways, it’s this mindset that will keep them going through good times and bad. And if you have a child that is showing signs that they will benefit in the business arena, that they are leaders rather than followers, or they have an abundance of ideas, are there anything we can do to nurture this mindset as soon as possible?

Pointing Them Towards The Right Resources

Much like the class project where children look after a hamster or an egg to teach them the rules of responsibility, you can start to instill the idea of professional responsibility early on in life. Nowadays, a blog is a stepping stone towards running bigger businesses, and resources like OnBiz can help to instill the right tools in our children. The big issue with the internet is that there’s a lot of misinformation out there, pointing our children towards the right resources helps ensure they are learning good stuff early on. They will be able to tell the difference between good and bad resources as they get older.

Ideas Are A Dime A Dozen…

It’s in the execution where an idea is worth something. And while children are young, they are, arguably, at their most creative. Encouraging them to come out with as many ideas as possible at this stage, either through play, or general creativity, could serve them well later in life. And while ideas are great, and we need to encourage this constant flow, we have to teach these children how to extract the gold out of these ideas. The greatest entrepreneurs don’t just have ideas, but they know how to transform them into something that “has legs”.

Giving Our Children The Tools To Cope

And it’s not just enough to give our children the information and the means so much to realize ideas, but we have to prepare them for the veritable ups and downs of business. Many budding entrepreneurs now step into running their own business without prior knowledge of what they’re letting themselves in for. If we teach our children, not the fact that it’s going to be difficult, but the internal resources that can help them through difficult times, they will minimize stress, and they will learn to function through these difficulties. It’s not enough to give our children the skills to get the job they want, educationional institutions these days need to factor in the realization that children can succumb to stress, arguably more so than their parents and preceding generations. Running a business is one of the most stressful things anybody can do, but if we can teach our children how best to cope with these anxieties, they will have tools for life.

Teaching our children the entrepreneurial mindset isn’t just about the facts and figures, it’s about ensuring they’ve got what it takes in their brain to cope with everything that flies their way.

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3 Steps To Helping Children Cope With Bereavement

There will never be a right time to talk about a death in your family to your children. Especially if the bereavement is of someone who has a particular significance in your child’s life, this could be a parent, aunty, babysitter or a friend. Naturally, you desire to protect and shield your children away from events or scenarios you worry that could cause them harm. With the parent’s role being to primarily to protect their young from experiencing any psychological and physical damage so that they may grow into healthy and confidential individuals. However, this doesn’t mean hiding them from everything, in doing so, your children might find it more difficult to deal with scenarios such as death when they are in their adult years.

Death is a natural and inevitable part of life. However, this doesn’t withdraw how incredibly painful this is for your children and for you. The steps developed below provide some structure with the what to do’s and what not to do’s when broaching the subject and supporting your children through experiencing the death of a loved one.

Be Honest

With deaths occurring by illness, accidents and natural causes, there is an explanation for why the death in your family has happened, and your children should know this to help build an understanding of a reason of why someone has died. Attempt to be gentle and open with the explanation as much as possible, however, refrain from scaring or overwhelming the children with details. In cases of wrongful death, avoid laying too much importance on the negligent party to your children, instead, in your own time seek advice from the lawyers online here. The central premise to explain is that the relative/friend is no longer here, and tell them how it makes you feel so that your children don’t feel alone in their own feelings and are more willing to exchange how they are feeling too.

Continuity

Although incredibly tricky, for children especially, continuity is critical for providing your children with the usual routine and structure they are used to. While coping with a traumatic event and a significant change in their life, children need some stability to boost their morale and to encourage the notion that life should and will move on. Remaining a part of daily activities such as sports clubs, maintaining existing friendships and relationships, attending school and so on will enable your children to gain perspective, maintain their commitments, exhibit reliability, and speak with different people about what has happened in their life.

Grieving

No two children are the same in their response to death. Some may be extremely quiet and a little withdrawn, others may want to talk about memories of their loved one, this is your opportunity to listen and share your memories too, and some may be highly emotive by crying or showing signs of anger. Either way, there is no wrong or right way to grieve, and each child’s actions towards the death should be supported. The same is true for you during your experience you may wish to cry, be quiet and so on. However, concerning withdrawing, an attempt should be made by you as the parent to refrain from closing a connection between you and your children, because this is the time they need your support and love the most.

By taking the points above into consideration for approaching your children about a death in the family or amongst friends, you are making the right choice in being open and honest, maintaining their routine, and accepting and supporting their decision to grieve to help them process and work through this painful time.

Empowering Daughters To Fulfill Their Potential

In the twenty first century, there is more emphasis than ever on equality for all no matter what gender, race or religion a person might be. It’s vital that we are able to strive for the meritocracy that many of us crave. We want to be rewarded for our hard work not because we are a suited and booted good looking male. Statistically, equality is still a long way off, with the gender and ethnicity pay gap still present (although closing) and the #MeToo movement still having an important role to play in society.

It can be a sobering thought when we consider how our daughters will find their way in the world. Will they be turned away from math simply because they feel like they aren’t good enough even though they have a passion for it? Will they shun science and technology subjects and careers simply because men seem to dominate? The answer should be no, and efforts are being made to show girls across the world just how vital they are to develop scientific and technological capabilities. It is this untapped potential that we, as a society, need to foster. Take a look at how you can ensure your daughter reaches her potential.

Lead By Example

If your child is eager to get into the chemistry lab, design an app or become a cardiovascular surgeon, it’s up to you to harness this enthusiasm. As a parent you will be the first person to see this passion, so you need to protect it rather than see it wither away. Most girls don’t enter male dominated professions because of lack of opportunity and an absence of self confidence. You need to ensure both of these are protected.

Take your daughter to listen to some female keynote speakers, take her to the best universities in the state and get her a work placement at a firm that specializes in control system design so she can see her potential career in action. Being a supportive parent can empower your daughter to achieve her goals.

Hard Work

Encourage a work ethic but at the same time don’t be too pushy. Yes, your daughter has expressed an interest in running her own app development company, but don’t force her to read biographies of Bill Gates when she should be enjoying time socializing with her friends. By pushing too hard, you could make your daughter disengage with her talents. Instead, reward her for her hard work, foster those moments of quality family time and make sure you keep up with the positive praise. There will be plenty of individuals who will sap your daughter’s confidence in life; don’t be one of them.

New STEM initiatives are popping up across the nation so women of industry enter into schools to talk to girls (boys) about careers they may not have even thought of. Normalizing the idea of females in powerful positions may take a generation to achieve, but it will be done. Be supportive and encourage your daughter to follow her dreams.

Helping Your Child Develop Empathy

Empathy is a strongly needed quality among all people. It is the ability to understand and share the feelings of another. With more empathy comes more compassion, lower crime rates, and more unity among everyone. Although empathy comes more naturally to certain people, it is something we should all strive for.

There are ways we can help our children to grow in this quality. Here are a few ideas for assisting your child with their development of this trait.

Be Empathetic Towards Your Child

If you wish for your child to become strong in the area of empathy, you need to model this behavior towards him (or her). Always be willing to see things from your child’s perspective, and try to identify with his feelings. If your child feels hurt about something you said, see the situation from his perspective. Apologize to him for your harsh or uncaring words, and mirror back in your words what he has told you. Help him understand that you see things from his point of view, as this is one of the best ways to show him what true empathy is all about.

Be Empathetic Towards Others

If someone has done something that made you feel upset, stop and think instead of lashing out. Let your child see you showing empathy in action. Think about the other person and what may have caused their reaction, words or attitude towards you. Verbalize it with your child so they can see the thought process behind being intentionally empathetic. This will teach them the process so that they too can begin to use it in their own thinking.

Teach Your Child to Care For the Plight of Others

Talk to your children about the struggles that others go through. Show your concern, and ask your child if they have any ideas about how you could care for and assist those individuals. Stop any statements and feelings that show a judgemental attitude towards those in need, whether those needs are financial, physical, emotional or other.

Explain how people can end up in various situations through factors that are beyond their control. This helps your child to see their own privilege, and to understand that we should all show compassion towards every person we meet, no matter what situation they are in at the moment.

Find Ways to Give as a Family

A great way to show empathy in action is to volunteer. Join forces with the rest of your family and put your energy to use by volunteering your time to those who need it the most. Serve meals together at a shelter, or put together care kits for the less fortunate. Become friends with those you serve, so that instead of seeing them as charity, your child is made aware that these are fellow humans with whom you have much in common.

Holding empathy towards others is an important characteristic for our children who will someday run society. It is one of the greatest lessons anyone can learn. Develop this characteristic in your child to make a future that is better for us all.

What Children Need to Know about Being Reliable

Reliability is an important life lesson that unfortunately does not come naturally to everyone. It is a quality that makes people easier to get along with. It can be frustrating to be in a relationship with someone who is not reliable, as it brings confusion and inconvenience to both the other person and everyone else around.

By being reliable, your child will become known by their behavior, and will eventually become a pillar in their community because of their trustworthiness. Here are some points about being reliable that once learned, will strengthen this quality in your child.

Reliability Takes Effort

Being reliable is not easy, and it does not generally come naturally. It is in our human nature to want to do whatever is convenient and whatever takes little effort on our part. In order to be known as reliable, we must be in a state of constant growth. It takes an effort to think ahead so that we will not be caught in situations where we feel powerless because of a lack of planning. This does get easier over time, but it is a continuous effort on our part. Teach this to your child, so they are not surprised by how difficult it can be to make yourself reliable.

Reliability Takes Discipline

Those who are lazy and don’t want to put in much effort are never those who are known as reliable. If you want the reputation of being a reliable person, it takes self-discipline to make it happen. If you want to be on time to your commitments, it takes some planning.

Start with a normal routine to teach this to your child, such as the school day routine. Talk to your child about how they can streamline the process by doing little things such as getting their clothes ready the night before, planning what breakfast they will eat, and setting their alarm clock with sufficient time to get ready for the day. This gives them the structure that makes reliability more likely.

Reliability Takes Practice

Getting it right doesn’t happen on the first time. If often takes several tries and several failures. It will eventually happen, though, and you will be rewarded by your effort as you see things coming together little by little. Teach your child to strive for perfection, but not to beat themselves up over not reaching their goals in a perfect manner. Train them to reward themselves with any improvement on their part, in this and all areas.

Reliability Takes Determination

Being reliable takes determination. It is easy to give up and let things slide. However, it is an important enough quality that it is worth pursuing wholeheartedly. Remind your child that this is a quality worth striving for.

Reliability is sorely lacking in our world today. Many people fall into the habit of keeping life convenient for themselves and often forget about their importance to others in the process. By teaching our children to be reliable when it comes to their availability and their promises, we will create the great leaders of tomorrow.

Can you run a home based business and raise a family?

The answer is yes, but I’m not saying it’s easy. It depends on the age of your children, of course, but still, no matter how old they are, you will have to find ways to balance your time between both your family and your business to make things work for you. As a busy mom of six, I’ve realized there is really only so much I can plan for my day but what gets planned does get done! 

Remember to draw on your parenting skills. Think about the skills you may already possess. If you are still unsure about the practicality of running a business while raising your family, know that you may already have some of the parenting traits to make things work. Time-keeping, multitasking, and patience are just some of the skills you may already have to help you balance your time.

Practice the art of saying ‘no.’ When you’re trying to schedule your day, there are some things you will need to say ‘no’ to. This applies to both your family and business life, so when something isn’t urgent, skip it, for the benefit of the other.

Find the right time to work. When you have school-age children, you should be able to fit in your business during school hours. If you have younger children, you may need to fit in work while they’re asleep, or otherwise safely engaged. You might consider getting up an hour earlier in the day to fit in some work. Or you might work longer into the night on occasion. It depends on the needs of your family, but there should be some time in the day that can be set aside for your business.

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How to Raise Children to Be Good Leaders

It’s been said that leadership starts at home. It just may be that leadership is, at least in part, an outgrowth of early training. There is disagreement among experts as to just how much leadership is inborn and just how much is learned, and there is really no way to settle that disagreement. It’s likely that it’s a combination of learning and natural ability. My belief is that leadership can be taught.

If you’d like to do what you can to raise your children to be good leaders, here are some tips that may help.

1. Teach Them to Think

Some sources point out that the school system, public and private, teaches kids what to think rather than how to think. Of course, there are probably exceptions to this – special schools and special teachers – but it’s entirely possible that your kids are not being taught how to think. So whether you homeschool or have your kids in public school, you might try some of these exercises to help your kids think on their own.

* Give them an age-appropriate reading assignment that expresses a particular point of view. An opinion piece in the newspaper is a good place to start. Ask what your child thinks about it, and have him or her write an age-appropriate response to the piece. Do the same thing with an article that expresses the opposite or a different view.

* Encourage them to read work that covers a range of opinions and views.

* Ask them if they agree or disagree, and why.

* Any time your child reads something, ask him (or her) what he thinks about it. Find out what he gleaned from the reading rather than finding out if he picked up what she was “supposed to” from the reading.

Leaders tend to be independent thinkers, so these exercises may go a long way toward teaching your child to be a good leader.

2. Teach Organization

This may be something of a challenge for parents who aren’t that organized to begin with! And for those parents who

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How to Be an Effective Leader for Children

There’s a lot of talk these days about leadership, and the need for children to have strong leaders. Whether you are working with children who are yours or you’re a teacher/mentor/leader for others’ children, learning how to lead them effectively is important. Whether you’re wanting to lead your children to practice a healthy lifestyle, increase communication, or something else, good leadership is a way to reach your goals with the children in your care.

But how do you become a good leader for kids? It can be hard to know if you’re not accustomed to it, or if you didn’t have strong leaders when you were a child. Here are some tips.

Set an Example

You’ve probably heard “lead by example,” but that means more than just doing something and hoping your kids will notice and copy your behavior. It also means being deliberate in setting an example, and you’ll need to refrain from certain behaviors and watch what you say.

For instance, if you want your children to be patient with others – a key leadership attribute – then take care that you’re patient with them. If you want your children to be able to make decisions like a leader, then make sure you’re not making all of their decisions for them. To lead by example, you need to think about more than just living out healthy, positive lifestyle choices (although that’s important, too). It’s also a matter of setting an example of how to treat others.

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11 Traits of a Great Parent

It’s not easy to be a great parent. Some of you didn’t have the best examples to follow, and it’s not a skill taught in school. You either have to educate yourself or learn on the job.

While there are many parenting styles, successful parents share attributes that give their children the best chance for success and happiness.

Most parents have a few of these attributes but must develop the others.

Great parents share many attributes:

  1. Patience. You knew this would be at the top of the list. Children are messy, noisy, don’t listen well, and exasperating. They can be pretty wonderful, too. But patience is essential. Learning to take a deep breath and relax can help more than just your parenting skills.
  2. Multi-tasking skills. Dealing with the house, work, and children require a great ability to multitask. Children constantly pull your attention away from whatever you’re doing. It’s not easy to regain your focus.
  3. Encouraging. Children quickly learn to doubt themselves and worry about the opinions of others. One of the best ways to combat this is to encourage your kids. With enough encouragement, a child can become their best self.
  4. Supportive. Encouragement and support go hand-in-hand. Children with support grow up to be relaxed and comfortable. Without support, the world can be a scary place. Teach your child there’s little to fear.
  5. Intelligence. One of the hallmarks of intelligence is problem-solving. Children provide a unique set of challenges that have to be solved. A little brain power can help you to navigate the minefield that parenting can entail.
  6. Flexibility. Many of your parenting attempts will fail. You must be flexible enough to have multiple solutions up your sleeve. When one doesn’t work, you can always try something else. Plans are always changing, too. It helps if you can go with the flow.
  7. Good leadership skills. You might be able to boss your kids around, but they’ll resent it, and they never forget. It’s more effective to have good leadership skills and only throw your parental weight around when necessary.

  8. Dependability. Kids feel safe when they have reliable and dependable parents. They have to know that you’re there for them. How much can your kids trust your word? How reliable do your friends consider you to be?

  9. Compassion. Children need to develop and experience compassion. Kids need understanding and comforting. Can you provide those two things?

  10. Sense of humor. Your children will give you plenty of opportunities to laugh. It would be a shame to allow those moments to go to waste. You’ll keep your sanity if you have a great sense of humor.
  11. Self-awareness. Children aren’t sure how to act. It’s up to you to be a role model. You’ll find that kids react to situations in ways that mimic your reactions. They don’t know any other way. It’s important to be self-aware enough to know whether you’re being a good role model.

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Teaching Your Child to Be Tactful

Tactfulness is the art of using discretion and sensitivity when speaking and relating to those around you. It is a great quality that helps one avoid awkward situations, and become a better friend to everyone. Children are born quite the opposite of this trait, but it is easier for them to understand as they grow older. If your child can learn to be tactful as a young person, it will save them from a lot of misunderstanding. Here is how you can help your child to become a tactful individual who is comfortable in their conversations both with friends and strangers.

Teaching Your Child about Telling the Truth

Our children need to know that honesty is important, and must be taught to tell the truth. Give them a foundation in what being honest is all about, and what it isn’t. Some people mistakenly believe that being honest means they can say whatever they want, whenever they want to. This is not true, and it can be hurtful and harmful to the people around them. Truthfulness and tact are excellent partners, as they balance each other.

Educating about the Need for Tact

Talk to your child about how necessary tact is. Explain that when we fail to use tact, people’s feelings can be hurt, and the health of our relationships can be put at risk. Tell your child about situations where tact is essential and that it can be necessary for the safety of others. For example, in the relationships that world leaders hold with each other, tactful speech is crucial. There are also many others times where there is a necessity for using soft words rather than being completely blunt in a person’s speech.

Give Examples of Where Tact Was Not Used

Talk to your children about situations where tact was not used. Discuss the consequences to the individual who did not use tact, and to the one who was on the receiving end. Explain that Aunt Deidra probably felt bad when cousin Jamal told her that her dress was ugly, and how cousin Jamal may have then been viewed as an uncaring individual. Talk about what could have been done differently in the situation.

Give Examples of Where Tact Was Used

Point out situations where tact was used well, and the positive consequences that came from it. Speak about how a friend may have held off an argument through the use of tact and kind words, instead of letting all his anger out. Talk about any world leaders who are known for their peaceful acceptance of others, and how this trait has far-reaching positive effects. Point out all those people who excel in this area, and discuss what you can learn from each of them.

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