Turning Ambitions Into Achievements: Planning Your Route To Career Success

If somebody asked you what you’d like to be doing in 5 years, what would you say? Many of us have career aspirations, but we never quite manage to turn ambitions into achievements. There are many reasons why we don’t always hit targets, and often, we come across hurdles or experience life events that get in the way. Sometimes, obstacles are inevitable, but you should never let your own lack of confidence hold you back. If you have goals in mind, and you’re desperate to succeed, you’ve come to the right place. 

Changing career

Often, in life, we don’t always start our careers doing a job we love. It’s very rare to accomplish everything in your first position and to reach the dizzy heights during the first few years of working. If you’re not doing what you want to be doing, or your desires or interests have changed over the course of time, there’s no harm in thinking about changing career. This is a bold move, especially if you’re worried about your income, but you don’t have to hand in your notice straight away. It’s hugely beneficial to explore your options while you’ve still got a job, and to do some research to find out more about what you want to do, and how you can pursue that avenue. It may be as simple as applying for some positions that appeal to you, or you may need to undertake further study or gain certain qualifications. Once you know what you want, you can start planning a route and taking steps towards that new career. 

Setting up on your own

Have you ever thought about setting up your own business? Being your own boss can be an incredibly appealing option, but it might also be a daunting prospect. If you’re ambitious, hardworking, driven, and you want to take charge of your schedule, your income, and the way you spend your working hours, you’ll probably find that the hard work is worth it. If you do plan to launch a new business, conduct extensive research to find out more about the marketplace and your target buyer, and think about how you’re going to get your new venture up and running. If you want to launch a youth development business check out my Called to Cultivate Youth Development Program Masterclass.

Online businesses are increasingly popular, but getting involved isn’t quite as simple as designing a website and creating a Facebook page. If you plan to sell online, you may be aware that you need to design and manage an online store, but which ecommerce platform is best? Read up on different options, get some advice from sellers who have been there and got the t-shirt, and make sure you bear your target market in mind at every stage of design and development. If you’re opening a physical store, rather than an online business, focus on location, create a window display that will turn heads, and organize a launch event to get people interested. Check out my YouTube video on Securing The Space as apart of my 21 Days of Power Programming.

Climbing the career ladder

If you have a job that you enjoy, and you’re currently working in the industry in which you want to advance, you may be wondering how you can take that next step and further your career. If you’re looking for a promotion at your current firm, for example, talk to your boss, show how passionate and determined you are, and be prepared to put in the hours. If you’re not getting the opportunities you think you deserve, consider looking at openings at other companies. Some businesses offer much better development programs for employees than others. 

If you have career goals, now is the time to take those all-important first steps towards success.

Mission Minded Starts This Weekend

Can you believe December is almost here? It seems the older I get the faster time flies by. Well, this year was amazing and came with its fair share of celebrations and challenges. I’m enjoying decorating for Christmas and planning my 2019. I sit down around this time of year and begin gathering magazines to work on my new vision board. Do you create vision boards too? This year I’m making a family vision board with my kids and husband so we can create the vision for our home in 2019. In addition to that I’m planning for my girl’s mentoring program, speaking opportunities, my first ever conference for this blog and a book launch and tour (That’s a lot of moving pieces and babysitting to secure). What are your goals? Be sure to share below.

I wanted to invite you into the planning by joining Mission Minded: Finish Strong, Start Stronger a 60 Day Action and Accountability Group. Over the course of 60 days, we are going to hold each other accountable for the goals you have set forth over the next 60 days. We are going to walk in faith and fear together. We are going to sharpen each other. You’ll receive access to our:

  • Mission Minded Goal Setting Worksheets
  • 60 Day Action Plan Mission Minded Workbook
  • Mission Minded Habits Mini-Course
  • Tips and Strategy guide for “wrapping the year up”
  • Mission Minded 30 Day Journal
  • “The Mission” Audio Download

Get your seat and swagg for kickoff day! Make this your best year ever. I wont offer this again until December 2019.

How to Raise Children to Be Good Leaders

It’s been said that leadership starts at home. It just may be that leadership is, at least in part, an outgrowth of early training. There is disagreement among experts as to just how much leadership is inborn and just how much is learned, and there is really no way to settle that disagreement. It’s likely that it’s a combination of learning and natural ability. My belief is that leadership can be taught.

If you’d like to do what you can to raise your children to be good leaders, here are some tips that may help.

1. Teach Them to Think

Some sources point out that the school system, public and private, teaches kids what to think rather than how to think. Of course, there are probably exceptions to this – special schools and special teachers – but it’s entirely possible that your kids are not being taught how to think. So whether you homeschool or have your kids in public school, you might try some of these exercises to help your kids think on their own.

* Give them an age-appropriate reading assignment that expresses a particular point of view. An opinion piece in the newspaper is a good place to start. Ask what your child thinks about it, and have him or her write an age-appropriate response to the piece. Do the same thing with an article that expresses the opposite or a different view.

* Encourage them to read work that covers a range of opinions and views.

* Ask them if they agree or disagree, and why.

* Any time your child reads something, ask him (or her) what he thinks about it. Find out what he gleaned from the reading rather than finding out if he picked up what she was “supposed to” from the reading.

Leaders tend to be independent thinkers, so these exercises may go a long way toward teaching your child to be a good leader.

2. Teach Organization

This may be something of a challenge for parents who aren’t that organized to begin with! And for those parents who

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How to Be an Effective Leader for Children

There’s a lot of talk these days about leadership, and the need for children to have strong leaders. Whether you are working with children who are yours or you’re a teacher/mentor/leader for others’ children, learning how to lead them effectively is important. Whether you’re wanting to lead your children to practice a healthy lifestyle, increase communication, or something else, good leadership is a way to reach your goals with the children in your care.

But how do you become a good leader for kids? It can be hard to know if you’re not accustomed to it, or if you didn’t have strong leaders when you were a child. Here are some tips.

Set an Example

You’ve probably heard “lead by example,” but that means more than just doing something and hoping your kids will notice and copy your behavior. It also means being deliberate in setting an example, and you’ll need to refrain from certain behaviors and watch what you say.

For instance, if you want your children to be patient with others – a key leadership attribute – then take care that you’re patient with them. If you want your children to be able to make decisions like a leader, then make sure you’re not making all of their decisions for them. To lead by example, you need to think about more than just living out healthy, positive lifestyle choices (although that’s important, too). It’s also a matter of setting an example of how to treat others.

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11 Traits of a Great Parent

It’s not easy to be a great parent. Some of you didn’t have the best examples to follow, and it’s not a skill taught in school. You either have to educate yourself or learn on the job.

While there are many parenting styles, successful parents share attributes that give their children the best chance for success and happiness.

Most parents have a few of these attributes but must develop the others.

Great parents share many attributes:

  1. Patience. You knew this would be at the top of the list. Children are messy, noisy, don’t listen well, and exasperating. They can be pretty wonderful, too. But patience is essential. Learning to take a deep breath and relax can help more than just your parenting skills.
  2. Multi-tasking skills. Dealing with the house, work, and children require a great ability to multitask. Children constantly pull your attention away from whatever you’re doing. It’s not easy to regain your focus.
  3. Encouraging. Children quickly learn to doubt themselves and worry about the opinions of others. One of the best ways to combat this is to encourage your kids. With enough encouragement, a child can become their best self.
  4. Supportive. Encouragement and support go hand-in-hand. Children with support grow up to be relaxed and comfortable. Without support, the world can be a scary place. Teach your child there’s little to fear.
  5. Intelligence. One of the hallmarks of intelligence is problem-solving. Children provide a unique set of challenges that have to be solved. A little brain power can help you to navigate the minefield that parenting can entail.
  6. Flexibility. Many of your parenting attempts will fail. You must be flexible enough to have multiple solutions up your sleeve. When one doesn’t work, you can always try something else. Plans are always changing, too. It helps if you can go with the flow.
  7. Good leadership skills. You might be able to boss your kids around, but they’ll resent it, and they never forget. It’s more effective to have good leadership skills and only throw your parental weight around when necessary.

  8. Dependability. Kids feel safe when they have reliable and dependable parents. They have to know that you’re there for them. How much can your kids trust your word? How reliable do your friends consider you to be?

  9. Compassion. Children need to develop and experience compassion. Kids need understanding and comforting. Can you provide those two things?

  10. Sense of humor. Your children will give you plenty of opportunities to laugh. It would be a shame to allow those moments to go to waste. You’ll keep your sanity if you have a great sense of humor.
  11. Self-awareness. Children aren’t sure how to act. It’s up to you to be a role model. You’ll find that kids react to situations in ways that mimic your reactions. They don’t know any other way. It’s important to be self-aware enough to know whether you’re being a good role model.

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6 Ways To Keep The Critic Inside You At Bay

Have you heard the adage, “Everyone is a critic?” It’s true. And, the biggest critic of all is staring right back at you through the mirror. No one has to come down hard on you because you are already putting yourself into a vicious head lock as it is. Keep reading to find out six ways that you can send that cynical noisemaker packing. They say that you can talk to yourself as long as you don’t answer back. If you don’t answer back, however, the potentially negative thoughts will continue unchallenged. This is more detrimental than being thought of as crazy. We often follow the patterns created in our minds by our thoughts. Allowing negative self-talk to dominate your mind can lead to low self-esteem, bad habits, depression and other unhealthy results.

6 Ways to Get Over Yourself

Don’t let the pressure get to you. Be proactive. Attack those thoughts as soon as they start to speak. Get creative. Box up your negativity – This can be literal or figurative. In the grand scheme of our life, each problem holds a small place overall. Seeing it as small minimizes its power over you. Try this. Create a small box or purchase one. Whenever you are plagued by a negative thought about yourself for the way you handled a problem or because you made a mistake, write it down on a piece of paper. Put it away in that small box. See your issue diminishing in size. Those thoughts do not define who you are. Replace negativity with positive self-talk – When a negative thought is removed something needs to fill its place in your mind. Exchange a negative (“I am worthless because I am not married.”) for a positive thought (“I am a unique and worthwhile person that any man would be lucky to have for a wife.”). If the negative thoughts can keep you down, then surely the positive ones can lift you up. Talk to a trusted friend – Explain the situation that made you feel so bad. Allow your friend to console you, counsel you and challenge that negative thought pattern that is condemning you.

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Model Appropriate Behavior for Your Children

When it comes to children, you are their role model. Parents are their first teachers. It is important to let them know how to deal with various situations as they age. Appropriate responses lead to positive outcomes. Never is this more important than dealing with defiant children. Model appropriate behavior. It will make things easier on you and on your children.

What Makes Defiant Children Different

Defiant children may suffer from a condition called ODD, Oppositional Defiant Disorder. This is more complex than just being stubborn. These children are disagreeable in the extreme and the behaviors occur almost daily. Parents often feel responsible or guilty for their children’s behavior anyway, so this just makes the situation that much more intense. The children may break the rules, talk disrespectfully, and repeat annoying behaviors on a regular basis. Traditional types of discipline only fuel the children’s anger and irritability. Parents often find themselves on a perpetual search for new ways of handling the situation.

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11 Easy Relaxation Practices to Share With Your Children and Teens

If you have relaxation practices that work for you, you might wonder how you can encourage your children to join you. Even if you haven’t been the best role model. After all, their lives can be stressful too when they’re trying to get good grades, make friends, and adapt to the changes that are part of growing up.

Sure, it would be tough to train a toddler to meditate for a half hour when they can barely sit still long enough to eat. However, there are age-appropriate activities suitable for any stage of development, from preschoolers to teens.

Find out more about how to help your children develop greater mindfulness and relieve stress.

Sharing Relaxation Practices with Younger Children

Even small children can relax and focus if you use movement and sound to make it interesting. It also helps if you provide an inspiring role model by managing stress constructively yourself.

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Accelerate Your Learning With These 9 Tips

Life is long enough that you can learn to do some amazing things. You might have to learn a new skill for work or some information for a test. Maybe you just want to learn a new language, to play an instrument, or how to cook a new dish. Learning is the fundamental for a fabulous life!

You won’t experience much that’s new if you don’t learn something new. Since time is often at a premium, learning quickly is important.

Try these ideas to speed up your learning process:

1. Learn over time. It’s much more effective to learn something for one hour each day for a week than to attempt to cram it all into your head over seven hours in one day. Consider breaking up your learning even further and give the subject your attention multiple times each day.

● One study showed that it was significantly more effective for beginners to practice piano five times each day for five minutes than it was to practice once for 25 minutes.

2. Create the right environment. You’ll accomplish more if you learn in an environment free of distractions. Imagine trying to learn how to swing a golf club next to a construction site on a sweltering day. How well could you learn Japanese with someone talking on the phone beside you?

● It’s not always possible to control your environment 100% but do the best you can. Remove as many distractions and be as comfortable as possible.

3. Get a good coach. Coaches know what matters. You might think you know the most important aspect of learning a particular task, but you might be wrong. Coaches can also spot mistakes and correct them instantly. Coaches are also good at holding you accountable. Why not get an expert on your side?

4. Get some exercise first. Just 15 minutes of exercise can improve your memory and ability to process new information. Hop on a treadmill or do some calisthenics for 15 minutes or more before tackling a new learning project.

5. Get some sleep. Inadequate sleep has been demonstrated to result in decreased reaction times, memory, learning ability, and even your use of proper grammar. Ensure you’re getting enough sleep.

6. Avoid studying the things you already know. Imagine that you’re reviewing facts or vocabulary words on flashcards. Avoid reviewing information you know by heart. If you’re learning a new piece of piano music, avoid practicing the parts you can already play. It’s a very inefficient way to learn.

7. Use a variety of media and senses to learn the information. Reading information can be effective, but it’s even more effective if you read it to yourself, recite it aloud, listen to a podcast, and watch a video on the topic. On top that, writing information down can be the best way to learn and remember.

8. Set a deadline. It’s common knowledge that tasks will expand to fill the time available. By setting a deadline, you can force yourself to work more consistently on learning the topic or skill. Without a deadline, it’s much easier to wait until “tomorrow” to get serious.

9. Be optimistic. In turns out that pessimists are more accurate at determining their current level of skill, but optimists ultimately learn things at a higher level. Have confidence and high expectations for yourself. You’ll ultimately learn more.

Learning is a huge component of life. Some learning is mandatory, especially in school or work environments. But, most learning is optional. You can learn about anything you want. One thing is for certain: the faster you can learn, the more you’ll be able to learn.

Like I always say “Knowledge is power!” Make a plan to learn something new today.

Question: What new skill or subject are you learning about now?

What is a Cultivator and How do I know if I am One?

Recently you may have heard about my podcast The Called to Cultivate™ Podcast with Regina Coley or heard my invitation to join the Called to Cultivate™ Community and thought to yourself what is a Cultivator™? A Cultivator is a person who educates, empowers, and enriches the lives of others. A Cultivator can teach, speak, or write but it’s through this that s/he challenges others to dig deeper so they can grow.

I wanted to coin a term that accurately explained my heart’s work and the hard work of so many others. So the Cultivator was created!

Who Do Cultivators Cultivate?

Anyone you feel called to serve! It can be your own children, your co-worker, or you can organize and lead a group. Cultivators have a heart for service and helping others to reach and achieve their goals through teaching, writing, and speaking. As it relates to me I cultivate parents and educators on this blog but I serve young women and girls in the community. I find opportunities to teach in everything I do.

Teach

A great Cultivator loves to educate people. You can do this through speaking or writing. You can engage, inspire and motivate your students to learn. I truly believe everyone has something to teach but there are select few that are gifted to teach. In our community, we discuss both types of teaching and support you on the path to discovery for both styles.

Inspire

A great Cultivator loves to inspire people. You wake up every day with a desire in your heart for people! You want to encourage people to strive for their very best. You want to serve as a role model for younger people and an aspiration for your peers.

Create Change

A great Cultivator works to create change. I mean your ultimate goal is to make a difference. You don’t feel at peace knowing that there is something that can be done when you see a need. You are typically the initiator and are full of vision.

Am I Describing You?

If while you read this your felt a leap in your belly you may be a Cultivator! If you are wanting to step into this work then you’re definitely in the right space.  You can hear more about the Cultivator movement in these places:

Called to Cultivate™ Podcast

Called to Cultivate™ Community

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