Twas the Night Before Inauguration

The Obama’s are resting comfortably on their pillows tonight soaking in every last detail of the White House and probably reflecting on a job well done. There are some tonight are at home crying about what tomorrow will bring as we induct a new president in these United States.

However I challenge you not to feel fear, regret, doubts, or anger. I challenge you to get ready. The blessed thing the Obama’s have done is set a BEAUTIFUL example of leadership, class, grace, work, relationship building, servant leadership, and public speaking. They have taught us how to gather people around issues that are important in our communities and neighborhoods and to do the work.

As with any great leader, they’ve created many more leaders. That’s us! We now have to say to ourselves it’s time to do the work. What’s still important to me? What’s still important in my community? What’s still important for advocacy, funding, and conversation?

We’ve been shown the way now it’s up to us to go the way! So tonight I go to bed with a smile on my face because regardless of what goes on in this world, I’m reminded of what I have that can never be taken away and that’s a passion for serving my community and the courage to do so.

Find your passion, find your voice, and let’s get out here and continue to carry the torch for our communities and those who are depending on us!

#teacherbae and the stereotypes of African American girls


By now I’m sure you’ve seen the images floating around social media of Atlanta based 4th grade paraprofessional Patrice Brown. The images have struck a controversy in the field of Education of appropriate classroom attire and in social circles the public shaming of black curvaceous women.


Identity Development: Helping Youth Navigate the Identity Crisis

Tips for Youth Practitioners and Program Directors

Identity Development- Helping Youth Navigate the Identity Crisis

The question, “Who am I?” is especially pertinent during adolescence. The combination of physical, cognitive, and social changes that occur during that time, plus the serious life choices to be faced (occupation, life partner) spur what Erik Erikson famously called an identity crisis. He used the term, “crisis,” to mean a turning point rather than a period of profound or debilitating uncertainty. Erikson acknowledged that identity issues could arise throughout the life course, but saw identity formation as the critical “developmental task” of adolescence.

What Viola Davis Taught All Black Girls


As you know our girl Viola Davis recently won her very first Emmy. It’s been well over six decades since a black woman has won an Emmy. This wasn’t just an accomplishment for Viola but an accomplishment for us all.

Her win taught us that there is still hope in that there are still women who are paving the way for others to follow.

Her win taught us that there is still power and authenticity in a genuine spirit.  Her win taught us that you can be a chocolate girl with natural hair and create a platform and a powerful voice for yourself. Through that the world can stand, listen, and take note.

Her win taught us that we have to stand on the shoulders of those who have come before us and use that as a catalyst to propel into our own dreams, goals, and desires. We cannot allow their struggle, scarifice, and success go to waste.

The thing that I found most amazing about her win was the look on her face when she won because she wasn’t expecting to win. How many times do we do things with such power and might but still don’t expect to win in life?

How often do we still question our abilities because we know we weren’t meant to stand out in the current world? We have to continue to be the change we want to see by creating opportunities and building the doors we want so desperatly to open.

We must expect to be winners and what we will expect will eventually become what we see. There is still hope for the black girl please don’t give up on your winning power or your dreams. There is no appropriate length of time on your success.

Embrace the natural beautiful and powerful you!  The world is waiting.

Those Who Show Up, Go Up

Unlocking the Power of Commitment

Have you ever felt the disappointment from someone who didn’t show up for you like you thought they would? The inability to be and stay committed leads to not only disappointments, but missed appointments. Today’s  topic is the power of commitments and showing up. Enjoy today’s audio!



11 Traits of A Memorable Mentor

For the People Who Desire to be Remarkable

In this day of instant information there is no doubt that you can perform an internet search and find everything you need to know about mentoring. However when I consult my heart about what the core of mentoring truly is there are several qualities that come to mind. When I mentor I have the goal in mind to have a lifelong effect on those whose lives I am impacting. If that resonates with you then check out these five traits of a memorable mentor.

1. Leadership. Mentors know the way and show others the way; this is true leadership at it’s core, and an essential trait of an effective mentor. Mentors also understand that it’s about serving others and equipping them with the tools and training needed to flourish both personally and professionally. As a leader mentors should set high expectations and walk alongside their mentees until they reach their new level.

2. Purposeful. Mentors who enter the relationship with a clear cut direction and a plan have the most effect. Every interaction, assignment, and meeting has an objective. But the difference between great mentors and exceptional mentors, is the greater understanding of pushing beyond the written goals and objectives they may have planned, to seeing that they can achieve anything they can conceive.

3. Anticipative. Great mentors are able to anticipate the needs of their mentees. Their gift of foresight is what’s needed for a mentee to truly grow in areas that they’re unaware of.

4. Empathetic. Empathy is the ability to see the world as another person, to share and understand another person’s feelings, needs, concerns and/or emotional state. Be able to identify your mentees way of thinking, feelings and attitude and how those affect his/her overall goals.

5. Orderly. When you are well disciplined it’s creates a model for self-discipline in others. Self-discipline is one of the hardest traits to develop but seeing how others model this will at the least give your mentees a positive example to simulate.

6. Passionate. Memorable mentors are passionate about their work. Passion drives excellent habits.

7. Principled. Operating with integrity is essential as a mentor. Everything that you do is built on the foundation of your principles and is a reflection of your principles; showcase them proudly.

8. Selfless. Memorable mentors show that success is not about fame, position or money. They are devoted to the cause and find ways to be helpful  and loving. A famous saying says “I may not remember what you said but I will always remember how you made me feel.” Your mentee will never forget how they felt as a result of your selflessness.

9. Wise. Memorable mentors understand that it’s not about sharing knowledge but it’s about sharing wisdom. Wisdom comes from understanding and understanding comes from experience.

10. Authentic. Mentors have to possess a genuine love and spirit for people. They have to have a certain level of realness and relatability. Mentees want to have mentors who not only want to share their successes but their failures. Being authentic isn’t about being perfect, it’s about being real with yourself and sharing that with others.

11. Great Listener. Mentors have the blessed ability to listen and hear the needs, complaints, frustrations, and joys of their mentees. Through listening we truly learn about others and have a perspective into their world. Exceptional mentors are able to effectively tap into their mentees unspoken needs and guide them through meaningful conversations.