Three Ways to Achieve Success IMMEDIATELY

1. Define your own success.
When it comes to success I find it interesting that people are always Googling how to make it big or how to makes loads of money. The only way to be successful under your own terms is to define success for yourself. What does it means to be successful? Does it mean a new position? A new salary? A nice car or a house is a fancy neighborhood? You cannot allow others to define success for you.

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Leadership Tips from Michelle Obama

I miss Michelle Obama. Every time she spoke she dropped knowledge to help us reflect our own way of thinking and actions! Here’s a look back to a few great tips from Michelle Obama.


“He believes when you work hard and you cross the door of opportunity, don’t slam it! Don’t close the door behind you! You REACH BACK and bring others up! @MichelleObama

1. Leadership is 100% about creating new leaders. If you are at the top and love the feeling of being above your subordinates then your motives for leadership are off. Effective leaders lead because they want to create change, influence others to take action, and work their way to a position to challenge the same in others. 

‎”Being President doesn’t change who you are, it reveals who you are.” @MichelleObama

2. Leadership is an internal expression of an inward ability. Leaders shouldn’t become someone “new” once they get into their position because leadership is not about position. Leadership is about the ability to influence change on any level. It reveals who you are because it should be who you are. 

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The Grammys, Mistakes, and Being Unashamed

The Grammy's, Mistakes, and Being Unashamed

Tonight the Grammy’s was everything I LOVE. Music, dancing, laughter, makeup, and fashion. But as I was watching I felt this year was different. The tone was different. SO MANY MISTAKES WERE MADE. SO MANY FEELS. So many lessons in the little moments. Here are a few, maybe you caught them too.

I missed the beginning of the awards show but when I turned on my TV I see two guys start to unzip their pants and take them off! (Thanks while I’m sitting there with my kids…) As I was trying to figure out what was going on Twenty One Pilots begins to describe that years ago when they were watching the Grammy’s with their friends they realized they were sitting there in their underwear. They said to themselves that if they ever won a Grammy they would accept it in their underwear. Lesson: Anyone from anywhere can do anything. We are all becoming.  Don’t forget all that you’ve gone through to get to your next level.  

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What steps can we take today to build our youth for the future? What jobs are we qualifying them for? What relationships are we helping them establish? What goals are we helping them reach? What gaps are we creating bridges for them to cross? There are many facets of youth’s life’s we have yet to reach. Take your gifting and connect with a young person today!

 

EDUCATION IS THE KEY TO OVERCOMING POVERTY. EXPOSING YOUNG PEOPLE TO NEW BOOKS AND KNOWLEDGE CAN PROVIDE AN EXPERIENCE AND INFORMATION NO ONE CAN TAKE AWAY. SHARE BOOKS YOU’VE ALREADY READ TO A YOUNG PERSON TODAY OR PASS ALONG A GIFT CARD TO THE BOOKSTORE. KNOWLEDGE IS POWER!!

Those Who Show Up, Go Up

Unlocking the Power of Commitment

Have you ever felt the disappointment from someone who didn’t show up for you like you thought they would? The inability to be and stay committed leads to not only disappointments, but missed appointments. Today’s  topic is the power of commitments and showing up. Enjoy today’s audio!

XoXo,

Regina

11 Traits of A Memorable Mentor

For the People Who Desire to be Remarkable

In this day of instant information there is no doubt that you can perform an internet search and find everything you need to know about mentoring. However when I consult my heart about what the core of mentoring truly is there are several qualities that come to mind. When I mentor I have the goal in mind to have a lifelong effect on those whose lives I am impacting. If that resonates with you then check out these five traits of a memorable mentor.

1. Leadership. Mentors know the way and show others the way; this is true leadership at it’s core, and an essential trait of an effective mentor. Mentors also understand that it’s about serving others and equipping them with the tools and training needed to flourish both personally and professionally. As a leader mentors should set high expectations and walk alongside their mentees until they reach their new level.

2. Purposeful. Mentors who enter the relationship with a clear cut direction and a plan have the most effect. Every interaction, assignment, and meeting has an objective. But the difference between great mentors and exceptional mentors, is the greater understanding of pushing beyond the written goals and objectives they may have planned, to seeing that they can achieve anything they can conceive.

3. Anticipative. Great mentors are able to anticipate the needs of their mentees. Their gift of foresight is what’s needed for a mentee to truly grow in areas that they’re unaware of.

4. Empathetic. Empathy is the ability to see the world as another person, to share and understand another person’s feelings, needs, concerns and/or emotional state. Be able to identify your mentees way of thinking, feelings and attitude and how those affect his/her overall goals.

5. Orderly. When you are well disciplined it’s creates a model for self-discipline in others. Self-discipline is one of the hardest traits to develop but seeing how others model this will at the least give your mentees a positive example to simulate.

6. Passionate. Memorable mentors are passionate about their work. Passion drives excellent habits.

7. Principled. Operating with integrity is essential as a mentor. Everything that you do is built on the foundation of your principles and is a reflection of your principles; showcase them proudly.

8. Selfless. Memorable mentors show that success is not about fame, position or money. They are devoted to the cause and find ways to be helpful  and loving. A famous saying says “I may not remember what you said but I will always remember how you made me feel.” Your mentee will never forget how they felt as a result of your selflessness.

9. Wise. Memorable mentors understand that it’s not about sharing knowledge but it’s about sharing wisdom. Wisdom comes from understanding and understanding comes from experience.

10. Authentic. Mentors have to possess a genuine love and spirit for people. They have to have a certain level of realness and relatability. Mentees want to have mentors who not only want to share their successes but their failures. Being authentic isn’t about being perfect, it’s about being real with yourself and sharing that with others.

11. Great Listener. Mentors have the blessed ability to listen and hear the needs, complaints, frustrations, and joys of their mentees. Through listening we truly learn about others and have a perspective into their world. Exceptional mentors are able to effectively tap into their mentees unspoken needs and guide them through meaningful conversations.

 

Letter To Your Younger Self Project

handwritingIf you knew better you’d do better, right? That’s what our young people deal with everyday. They make mistakes or carry regrets because they simply didn’t know better or they didn’t understand the consequences of their actions.

They didn’t have the luxury of having people share honest truths about their experiences. Sometimes people are ashamed of sharing their experiences for fear of being judged but it’s critical for our young people to know that there are situations they might find themselves in, that there are people who’ve been in them before, and there is another side!

They need to know that there are overcomers and that everyone’s story isn’t clean and perfect. They need genuine, authentic, transparent, honest individuals who are willing to help infiltrate their minds with stories of resilience and strength.

There are sometimes that we wish we could go back and tell our younger selves what we know now to save ourselves from making poor choices or to have made a better choice. I decided to create the “Letter to Your Younger Self Project” to collect letters from people who have sat down and been very intentional about giving quality advice to themselves and compiling them into a book. So here’s what I need for you to do.

Take about 5-10 minutes and go to a quiet place. Take out a blank sheet of paper or take out your tablet or laptop and write a letter to your younger self. Write to the “you” that was rebellious, invincible, stubborn, and independent. (You know the “you” I’m talking about). Think back to the most challenging times in your life and share what it was like in that moment for you. What were you thinking and feeling? How did you come to your final decision? What was it like when you overcame that challenge?

Our youth need to hear your story! Once you’ve completed your letter please email to regina@reginacoley.com. If your letter is selected you will need to sign a release waiver to be included in the book.

I look forward to reading your letters and I thank you in advance for your commitment to empowering the lives of today’s youth.

How can you say to your brother, ‘Brother, let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when you yourself fail to see the plank in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.
Luke 6:42